When you are away from home and from the people you call family, this sudden realization of loneliness strikes you. You meet people, some of whom become very close to you, and indeed become an integral part of your life. They are equivalent to your family. This is one of the reasons why after a time, you take them for granted thinking that they won't go anywhere, they won't leave, they are yours. Does it also lead to being too dependent on such people? May be! You feel hungry, you ask them the first if they are hungry as well, You wanna watch a movie, you ask them the first before even checking whether there is even a show available!
Of course there are only a few people with whom your frequency matches so perfectly that you make them so important in your life. It's the same with having a relationship, I suppose. when you have a lot of people loving you, surrounded in an environment without any margin of aloneness (which often happens in joint families I suppose), you don't even realize that you need anyone else to fill any emptiness because there is no void you feel.
Then it so happens sometimes, that one such person during this stage, becomes very important in your life, and you feel as if you are in love with him/her. This might probably be because of the insane respect you have for her. (There should definitely be a reason for them to have become so important in your life in the first place; similar interests, positive vibes they reflect, the way they think, quality time spent with them, their resemblance with someone very close to your heart or with a person ideal in your perspective, their presence at a time when you needed someone desperately, or a combinations of these! - the list goes on and on!!). You become possessed suddenly, you can't see her with anyone else, you are of course happy with her happiness, but you don't want to give them up and you want to give everything up just to have quality time and being with them. It soon reached a stage when her being mad at you, talking insensitively, arrogance doesn't even matter anymore. Only thing that matters is that that person is still in your life. This is probably how a baby feels about his mom. There should definitely be a term in Psychology for this for sure, anyways...
Anyways, these feelings in most scenarios are not reciprocative. And then when you realize that this person for whom you want to give everything up, doesn't feel the same about you. Should it make you feel sad, should you succumb to despair, should you get jealous, make them feel bad about you? Do You feel like pretending to be strong, and gain their sympathy with some tactic? Is this the solution to be loved back? Is it not hard for the person whom you want to beg this love from? Isn't expecting to be loved back by being pitied upon is the worst thing to think about? What's the priority - is it being self-centered and expect being loved back just to prove a point that you are not unlovable or is it being strong enough to accept the truth and be happy when she finds someone who makes her happy? if her presence makes your life blossom, why would you expect and then hurt two people and destroy a pure friendship that exists?
Your strength lies in how well do you take these situations! The future is unpredictable; but, if you want all the happiness for both her and for you, the best way is to utilize these situations to strengthen yourself rather than weakening. Being supportive and mature is the best solution to think of, expectations anyways never lead anywhere. True love doesn't have to reflect back; if it does, let it bloom, but if it doesn't - then don't lose hope. Life doesn't have to be smooth. Situations are never permanent. In the end life is all about moving on, making others happy and most importantly being the reason for other's happiness instead of being pitied upon.. And to conclude, nothing is permanent. There is always something better coming up....
Just random thoughts at 2 in the morning, resulted from things bothering me past couple of weeks!!
Of course there are only a few people with whom your frequency matches so perfectly that you make them so important in your life. It's the same with having a relationship, I suppose. when you have a lot of people loving you, surrounded in an environment without any margin of aloneness (which often happens in joint families I suppose), you don't even realize that you need anyone else to fill any emptiness because there is no void you feel.
Then it so happens sometimes, that one such person during this stage, becomes very important in your life, and you feel as if you are in love with him/her. This might probably be because of the insane respect you have for her. (There should definitely be a reason for them to have become so important in your life in the first place; similar interests, positive vibes they reflect, the way they think, quality time spent with them, their resemblance with someone very close to your heart or with a person ideal in your perspective, their presence at a time when you needed someone desperately, or a combinations of these! - the list goes on and on!!). You become possessed suddenly, you can't see her with anyone else, you are of course happy with her happiness, but you don't want to give them up and you want to give everything up just to have quality time and being with them. It soon reached a stage when her being mad at you, talking insensitively, arrogance doesn't even matter anymore. Only thing that matters is that that person is still in your life. This is probably how a baby feels about his mom. There should definitely be a term in Psychology for this for sure, anyways...
Anyways, these feelings in most scenarios are not reciprocative. And then when you realize that this person for whom you want to give everything up, doesn't feel the same about you. Should it make you feel sad, should you succumb to despair, should you get jealous, make them feel bad about you? Do You feel like pretending to be strong, and gain their sympathy with some tactic? Is this the solution to be loved back? Is it not hard for the person whom you want to beg this love from? Isn't expecting to be loved back by being pitied upon is the worst thing to think about? What's the priority - is it being self-centered and expect being loved back just to prove a point that you are not unlovable or is it being strong enough to accept the truth and be happy when she finds someone who makes her happy? if her presence makes your life blossom, why would you expect and then hurt two people and destroy a pure friendship that exists?
Your strength lies in how well do you take these situations! The future is unpredictable; but, if you want all the happiness for both her and for you, the best way is to utilize these situations to strengthen yourself rather than weakening. Being supportive and mature is the best solution to think of, expectations anyways never lead anywhere. True love doesn't have to reflect back; if it does, let it bloom, but if it doesn't - then don't lose hope. Life doesn't have to be smooth. Situations are never permanent. In the end life is all about moving on, making others happy and most importantly being the reason for other's happiness instead of being pitied upon.. And to conclude, nothing is permanent. There is always something better coming up....
Just random thoughts at 2 in the morning, resulted from things bothering me past couple of weeks!!
